Discriminatory coworker only takes private messages from female colleagues, faces payback when he asks male coworker to solely message him in the group chat: '[he] is only ever nice and helpful to the girls'

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Sep 19, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

Workplace relationships are rarely the easiest dynamic in the world. They are often affected by petty slights, gossip, and power dynamics, and on top of that, you still have to be civil enough to everybody to keep your job. It means that there are a lot of employees out there who are putting up with subpar treatment from their colleagues.

On the positive side, this makes it all the sweeter when you have the opportunity to take an obnoxious coworker down a peg without doing anything that might get you a meeting with HR. This happened with one Redditor who was fed up with his colleague refusing to communicate with him as he did the female staff members. When this entitled man insisted that OP could only message him in the group chat while he happily took private messages from the women, his demand quickly backfired on him. It wasn't as foolproof a plan as he had thought.

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    "Please message me in the group chat” alright, but won't like it you
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    I have a coworker I don't get along with. I tried being friendly with him when I first started, but he listened to a coworker who worked in my unit and she only ever spoke badly about me. She later admitted it's because she "has a hard time making friends, is shy and sometimes being a little bit mean helps her open up."
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    Anyway, this coworker guy is ONLY ever nice and helpful to the girls. For the longest time I was the only guy in my unit. That meant that if he had info he needed to share to me, he would take it to my boss. If he had info to share to anyone else in my unit he would come bearing gifts. Usually Mexican or Japanese snacks. He prefers his private messages to be only from the girls in the office. Recently he directly told me to only message him in the group chat. If it hasn't been for the way he tol
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    I began to message him in the group chat but only to point out his errors, showing that he was making people wait up to an hour to hear from him on issues that normally take 2-5 minutes to get a response back on, sending messages that people are on hold for him and implying that he should be taking calls he promises to take and not leaving them to flirt with girls in the office. In the last hour of the day he came back to me and just quickly said "please send messages for me directly to me." I d
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    South-Style-134 I'd love for a higher up to scroll through those private messages only from girls...
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    outersenshi OP Me too. What union rep in a way though is i just learned that he is our
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    LindonLilBlueB Ils Go above him in the union and state your grievances.
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    KevKlo86 Did you at least mention in the group chat that he explicitly told you to message him only in the group chat? Otherwise people might actually get the idea you're intentionally trying to make him look bad.
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    outersenshi OP Yeah. I made sure to let the chat know he asked for it to be this way
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    SerWrong What about the lady colleague who only spoke badly of OP? Anything happened to her?
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    outersenshi OP She quit. When her monthly counseling became weekly and she was being questioned regularly about the insults she would make, she broke down crying and said the office was bullying her. She gave her two week notice a couple days later and she left. Last I heard, her now husband got a job in Florida??? Not sure if thats true though
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    Dapper_Hovercraft_83 I'd also go to HR. You're already doing okay by thinking this other dude is not acting in good faith. Keep it up and report his behind.
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    Sensitive-Stock-9805 I got a group thread about a record that was kind of created in error. One record. A Director cc'd everyone from her management to mine. I said yes please delete the record in error and while you are at it, here's all the 'bad' data record and duplicates your team is responsible for. It's a mess and it should be cleaned up as well. She replied 'yes I am aware' obviously embarrassed that I sent her very long list to the same people she sent my one record in error (which was t
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    Piddy3825 lol, petty revenge - best served in group chat...
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    Contrantier I love that you didn't back down. He better have either gotten fired or straightened his out.
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    Weird Technician2317 "Hey, um, I know I'm not your manager and that I have less experience and seniority than you but let me try to control your job, your work, and by extension with your career and cause you stress. K? But don't do it to me." .job. I will never understand these people and they are at every. One cannot work in peace if one has to work with others. Pretty sure those people quite literally think they are better than others. They fashion themselves leaders. Waaayyyyy too many peopl
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    I've seen a lot worse than this but it's the principle of it that just kills me. With workplace stress increasingly coming into view as a major cause of illness in the modern world it makes you wonder what's in their heads. Psychos or complete idiots?
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    Both-Finding-7075 Bro the other coworker for talking bad about you because SHE have socialization issues
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    Scared_Ad2563 I loved every moment of reading this. Such a satisfying revenge.
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